One of the reasons that we have taken a hiatus from blogging in recent months is because we have devoted some of that energy to exploring new sexual adventures, including swinging. (This may sound like it shouldn’t take up too much of our time, but you would be surprised…explanation to follow later.) When I first seriously broached the idea of this to Morgan, she was in complete disbelief. As I have mentioned in some earlier posts, I had not had any partners in the past who could be considered sexually adventurous, and certainly none who would entertain the thought of swinging. Morgan and I had talked about it in the previous six months, but only in more of a general discussion of the variety of possibilities in the world of sex. Now, I had made the bold step of creating an account on a swinger website and I showed it to her. While initially shocked, and after an interrogation of my motives and thoughts along the lines of “How did you come to this decision?”, she became intrigued at the possibility of this being more than simply talk.
After joining the site and adding some pictures to our profile, we quickly started receiving messages from other interested couples in our area. We live in a fairly conservative region and it was surprising to find so many people who were self-identified as swingers and lived within a short drive from our residence. After about a week, we started chatting online with a few people and we found that we had a lot in common with one particular couple. It really was like an online dating sort of relationship. Because of the connection we seemed to have we decided to meet for dinner.
This is where it gets even more interesting. You would think that meeting other people, especially with similar interests, should be easy. Wrong. The anticipation and nerves are even worse than going out on a regular first date with one other person. In the case of a normal first date, sex is always an option but the relationship is what both of you are seeking. In our situation, we already had a relationship, but sex with someone else was the reason we were meeting. So, in a way, all of your desires are already out on the table.
While awkward at times, the dinner went went and we talked with this couple for about three hours that night. They were very down-to-earth and everyday people. Most importantly we left feeling like it is completely normal to explore the sexual landscape. So, now the next step was: Are we going to actually have sex with another couple? If so, how? When? Where?